I don’t know about everyone else, but I am feeling and processing this quarantine day by day. Being a mom of a three year old who is an only child can be rough in quarantine some days. He gets restless of being in the house and goes bizerk letting all his energy out. He keeps asking to do our normal activities and outings, I explain that everyone is sick and we cannot do them. He usually replies with a long exaggerated “whyyyyyyy?” And he never truly understands, which has me explaining it to him every day.
Having him also brings up anxiety of “omg I have to take all precautions to make sure he will be healthy”. Being a three year old boy who likes to touch and put his hands in his mouth, you can probably understand the anxiety. Since I work for myself, I not only do I have to worry about him being healthy, I have to make sure that I’m doing all I can to provide for him, while still making sure he is healthy.
This allllllllllllll gets me to my main point. If someone is having a bad day in isolation and say they might lose it. LET ‘EM!!! If someone is having anxiety throughout the quarantine, LET ‘EM! If someone has to use the quarantine to regain sanity and take a break, LET ‘EM! If someone is just trying to survive through the quarantine and doesn’t have time to learn a new skill or better their situation because they are just simply trying to survive, LET THEM!
You have no idea the life some people walk, the battles they face, therefore YOU HAVE NO ROOM TO JUDGE THEM. If you want to be precise, that’s god’s job! Some people were working hard to change their situation before COVID-19. Some of them almost had it. Now, that work gets back tracked because they now have to figure out a new way to survive along with whatever else may be happening in their lives. You can’t blame everyone for the situation they’re in. Unfortunately some were born, thrown, or handed the situation. Yes, you can blame them for staying there to long, but with all of the current underlying circumstances, can we just give each other a break?
Harper Lee said in To Kill a Mockingbird “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” Everyone is fighting a battle weather they show it or not. It’s not our place to tell them how to handle their situation, or criticize them for it. Instead be kind. Offer words of encouragement. Be the bright light to someone’s dim day.
I am writing this to make people aware of a different point of view. I am not ‘losing it’ in quarantine, but there are moments when I have to meditate to remember that there is a higher power that’s has my back. My family and I are healthy at the moment. We are sticking to our house. Following the guidelines if we must go out. I hope it is the very same for you and your families. Hold your littles ones tight. Let them work your nerves, because at least they are here and healthy enough to do it!
Stay home& stay safe my loves!
The beginning of a new year is always a weird but exciting place to be. You get to reflect on events and situations of the past. These mistakes you made the losses you took. I hope that we all take time to look at how much we’ve grown and what lessons we learned Perhaps this can be the biggest motivation for you going into 2020.
Yes, we are entering into a new decade. Don’t state that it will be a new you. Don’t lose your authentic self. Just be an improved you! You know what mistakes you made, you know what problems you had. Use those to make sure you don’t make the same or similar mistakes this year.
Form new habits.
My biggest mistake this year was beginning to stop believing in myself, I thought the world wanted me to lose my magic. I loved some friends too much and let wanting to be accepted be my biggest driving force for my actions. This set me up for letdowns, frustrations, and loses. I began to reflect too much on my downfalls and my past. I created unnecessary pressure on myself. I assumed opinions of myself from others multiple times which created anxiety and burned bridges. All because of myself.
The biggest lesson I learned is that you can’t please everybody and please yourself. Some people will not agree or understand. To those people, I don’t have anything to prove or to be sorry for. I can only continue to be myself. I learned that just because my intentions and heart are pure, that does not mean so is everyone else’s. I will always have my best interest at heart and cannot fault anyone for that. I learned to love my self through all the ups and down because my character and persona would have not been built or grown the way that it is now. I learned that the best I can do is be genuine, authentic, and myself. These things will be appreciated by the right people. The people who reciprocate and give the same energy back is who I need to keep in my circle.
2020 won’t be perfect. But it will be much better. I’m walking into this New Year feeling aware, strong, and mature. I will be confidence, determination, and faith in this next decade. I will continue to self-reflect. Take time to smell the flowers, and open my heart up to loving and being loved again.
Keep growing. Keep reflecting. Keep being open to new concepts. DO NOT SLEEP ON me. Actively chase my dreams harder than ever. Bring back the fire under my ass. Travel as much as I did in 2020. Start a business. Grow ECOnichole. Invest in my son’s future.
I know a lot of amazing and talented people. I am so blessed to have the memories I have created this last year. I am honored to have the opportunities I had presented to mine. I know that I am highly favored because my support system (family) has only grown stronger.
This year I am not playing with yall! I’m losing sleep and stepping out of my comfort zone to work hard as hell to make shit happen this year. I sat back for 2 years thinking it was too late for me. My time was just beginning. I’m barely a quarter way through my marathon. So let’s go!
Things to look out for in 2020:
- More YouTube videos.
- More burlesque shows.
- Aimless fire on fire.
- Ecofriendly products and events.
- More acting.
- And tons more of different dope digital content!
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Thank you all for joining me for this new year! 2019 has different energy around it. 2018 was my year to make some of my biggest mistakes and learn some of the best lessons. This year I’m buckling down and getting back to chasing my dreams. Life is to short to wonder “what if” or to have FOMO. It’s also too short to care if what people think of you. Fear held me back last year. So this year I have vowed to be F E A R L E S S!! What have you vowed for the new year? We are one month in and is your energy still the same about the new year? I hope this year brings everyone clarity, peaace, and success! If you hve any events happening this year let me know! Thank you to those you have and continue to support me! We are going to murder this year! — Jasmen Gearner